#RelationshipWed!!!

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Hey LaShonda, I really need some advice. I've been dating my boyfriend for about eight months now and on the surface it seems like we have the perfect relationship. My friends envy our relationship because we are always together and our chemistry is more than on point. But when you peel away the layers of our relationship, you will find that I have major issues with our situtiation. Okay, I know you won't judge me because I've read the Hood Chick's Series so I know you know about this life lol, but my first boyfriend was a drug dealer. He made alot of money on a daily basis and he spoiled me rotten! My bills were paid and he brought me designer everything. Unfortunately he got locked up and I found out he was cheating on me and we ended up parting ways. My next boyfriend played semi-pro ball and although he wasn't a millionaire, he still splurged on me and I got used to the lifestyle of having a man who was made. Well he ended up cheating on me as well and it took me a while to get over him but I got through it. So herein lies the problem with my new man.... I know I may sound superficial but I mean, he works for Directv, barely could pay his own bills let alone help me out with mine. He has a ton of debt which means EVERYTHING including his car is in my name. Recently he's been hinting around about a ring, (which I doubt he could afford a ring that I would want) but I don't know if I will be able to marry someone who isn't financially stable. Don't get me wrong, he's such a great guy. He has never cheated on me, he treats me like a Queen, rubs my feet and he can cook his a**off. But I guess I'm just used to the lifestyle of being financially sound. I will feel like an a**hole leaving him just because he doesn't make enough money but I didn't know how much this would affect the way I feel about him. I don't want to cheat on him but I would be lying if I said that I would turn down a man who brought more to the table because I wouldn't. I do really love my man but times are hard and I know that he's trying, but trying isn't enough. If our relationship stays like this, I'm afraid I may be turning down that ring.  What do you think, advice please??



Now I ain't saying she's a gold digger! Lol, just playing babe, I had to do it, lol!...But let's get serious for a moment..This is actually an easy one...
Alright, here is your track record---> You had two boyfriends who spoiled you rotten but broke your heart in the end, now you found a GOOD man who doesn't spoil you superficially but cherishes your heart, treats you like a Queen AND wants to put a ring on it. Honeyyy, do you know how many women search their entire lives trying to find a good man who they share chemistry with, is faithful, respects them AND treats them like a QUEEN? And you are really willing to throw all of that away because his check is too short? Sounds a little selfish to me. I know it's hard to transition from a particular lifestyle when you're used to it, but all the riches in the world don't mean shyt if you ain't with the right man! Have you thought of encouraging him to further his education, or possibly moving up in the company he currently works for? You stated that you know he's trying and that it wasn't enough. But honey, since when was trying NOT enough? How about you try treating him like a teammate instead of someone who is supposed to finance your lifestyle. It's not all about you. Trust me, it isn't a wise decision to discard a GOOD man because he isn't meeting your financial quota; you could end up regretting it. True enough, you could possibly leave him and meet a man with the riches you desire, but there is also a chance that you could get your heart broken again. With your current man, you already know what you're dealing with; a faithful man who loves you. My advice is to work on your situation, give him some suggestions and encourage him to put it into action. If encouraging him to work on the future for the both of you is too much for you, then maybe it's YOU who don't deserve HIM.. Good luck.

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